I thought I would round off last month's blogs to do with goals, careers etc with a piece I put together some years ago, which may ring a bell or two with others. This is followed by a few pointers which, no matter how hard doing them might be, are perhaps the best way to start getting your life back on track (I would say 'move forward' but I hate that corporate expression) unless of course you have a winning lottery ticket and I wouldn't rely on that! Wallowing is not an option but knowing you are not alone with your fears and worries can be a bit of a relief. Your personal experiences and opinions might be totally different but if you have anything to add, then please feel free to share your views with us.
How does it feel?:
- To be a bit frightened and fearful about the future
- to feel overwhelmed
- To feel a failure
- To see a lifestyle you took for granted, vanish
- To wonder how on earth you can pay the bills
- To become an expert in juggling who gets paid first/at all
- To dread the postman's visit
- To feel really mean telling the children they can't have a couple of quid (Don't worry, they will survive this!)
- To see your confidence and self esteem eroded
- To be 'tired of'......
- To wonder why you bother
- To feel invisible
- To feel alone
- to find out who your true friends are
- To be open and raw to perceived criticism
- To wonder what you actually DID with your money
- To see that turning these events into 'positive opportunities' is never as easy as the book says
- To realise how expensive it is to be poverty stricken
The (slightly) positive side:
- To have time to examine and re-evaluate your life and priorities and to learn the difference between wants and needs
- To get to know your family better
- To see the importance of creative, lateral thinking
- To recognise what's important in life
- To understand that whilst money really isn't the measure of everything, having enough certainly oils the wheels and cushions life's blows
Next Moves:
- Put your mind to work and remember your attitude is everything. You don't have the luxury or feeling sorry for yourself. Toughen up.
- What you believe about yourself and your life is what shapes your destiny. Check yours.
- Take action, blame no-one, get organised and you can get past this
- Be kind and supportive - of yourself too
- Be a doer and not a talker
- Start now!
It can be hard I know, and for some more than others. These are difficult times but getting through them will make you stronger, you just have to keep at it. Go back and look at the first blogs around goals and careers too. Good luck.
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